Have you ever had thoughts such as, I’m the only one struggling with porn like this, God must be so ashamed of me, or I just have got to get stronger to overcome my addiction or anything like that? These thoughts are present in almost every case of pornography addiction I’ve seen. But do you... Read more »
One of the common things that gets debated when it comes to pornography use is its “addictive” nature. Is porn really addictive in the clinical sense of the word? Does porn really damage or change the user’s brain or is that a claim of weak science? Admittedly the scientific data on porn or sex addiction is... Read more »
Back in March of 2013, we at XXXchurch.com decided to do a lil’ something called the Porn Kills Tour. It was simple. Get me and two other great talents (Levi The Poet and Jefferson Bethke), stuff us in a hearse, and hit 5 stops where we would let people know a simple message – PORN... Read more »
My family banned me from watching 19 Kids and Counting with them. Apparently, every time the show was on and I was in the room, I would make a statement and interrupt their TV experience. I had concerns. My concern was with the way it portrays Christians, and I just don’t see this family as... Read more »
Most of you who know me know I am a sucker for bad TV, TMZ, and yes, ESPN. I even got sucked into the show True Tori earlier this year and wrote a blog about it here. This question in the title of this blog is a tough one. I think every marriage is different,... Read more »
It’s 7PM and there you are sitting in front of your computer screen. You look at the clock and wonder how the hell you wasted 3 hours of your day looking at porn. You think, “How could I let this happen again … especially when I want to stop so bad!” Ever been there? I... Read more »
When the movie 50 Shades of Grey was released in February it set an all time record for box office sales for that month. Because the movie (and book series) deals with the topic of sex we of course felt that it was our responsibility to offer some healthy discussion around this subject. Especially since 50... Read more »
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For some reason, we live in a world where it seems like the stereotype for married people and sex is that men need it and women don’t want to cough it up. I don’t know how that happened, but in my marriage, sex is a two-way street. It takes both of you to make it... Read more »
Have you ever had an article or blog post that stopped and made you think … “Hmmm, isn’t there a bigger issue or question here?” I read a great article in USA Today on the “right” to wear yoga pants. Mind you the article was specifically dealing with the rights of a female middle schooler. Anyway,... Read more »
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It’s natural to have sexual fantasies, we all do. Even adults in long term committed relationships who love each other dearly and have a great sexual relationship may find their minds sometimes wandering, imagining themselves in unusual locations or unlikely situations doing things they feel they could never do in real life. These fantasies are exciting for how much they differ from our usual lives and because they allow us to imagine ourselves in another world or even another time, where our imaginations and desires can safely play without judgment, guilt, or criticism. And acting out these sexual fantasies with our partners can be fun and rewarding, providing another opportunity to bond with our partners, growing closer to them because they are someone that we can trust completely with our innermost secrets and desires without fear of ridicule or mockery.
But approaching your partner for the first time about a sex fantasy can be a delicate matter. It’s normal to feel they may be alarmed or shocked, maybe even appalled by the things that you would like to try out with them in the safety and privacy of your own bedroom. As with all aspects of a strong, healthy relationship, communication and keeping an open mind are important. It’s best to approach your partner at a time when you know you won’t be interrupted and when you can both dedicate your complete attention to each other, discussing your desires and fantasies comfortably. Explain what it is you fantasize about as clearly as possible, emphasizing that you want to do this with your partner, that you want them to play a significant role in bringing this fantasy to life for you, as much as they feel comfortable in doing so, because in enacting your fantasy, it becomes a shared fantasy for them, and it is that sharing and being comfortably and safely vulnerable with each other that helps strengthen your relationship and add an extra layer of pleasure to your sex life. It is important for your partner to know, if they have any reservations that you’re not looking to replace them with a sex fantasy, rather you want to add a new and exciting dimension to your relationship, and that you welcome any fantasies that they may want to act out, too.
Planning your sex fantasy is easier now than ever, as there are numerous reputable online retailers specializing in adult costumes, sex toys, props, and even sex furniture that you can purchase discreetly in the privacy of your own home. These retailers also ensure your utmost privacy by delivering your items to you in discreet packaging, making no one any wiser to the exiting and titillating scenarios being acted out in the privacy of your own home with the person you love.
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